An EXAMPLE: Do you know why a lot of people with disability go to Beijing 2008 Paralympic Games. They want the whole world to recognize them and prove the able people wrong. In life they want to do build a reputation of themselves. There is nothing wrong with it to go after dreams, after dreams until they taste the achievements. It is one of the never ending road to success and do not let your mind waver or otherwise your mindset will sink. Follow your heart not your brains.

Digital Dan, of Ferndale, California, was a carpenter until he got cancer of the throat and had his voice box removed. When he could no longer speak, he became a disc jockey! Dan types his words into a laptop computer and the laptop does the talking!

There is a pattern amongst people who achieve their dreams – they often start from a long way behind. You find sickly asthmatics who became champion athletes, you find tycoons who were bankrupts. You find a thousand stories of illiterate immigrants who became college professors and company presidents.

When the odds are stacked against you, you develop a mental toughness just to survive. The strength you develop to survive becomes your secret weapon.

CONCLUSION: We always have choices. If you are not doing something, it’s because you are putting your energy elsewhere. The question is not: “Why is this impossible?” The question is: “What am I unwilling to do?” When you say: “I’ll do this thing. I don’t care how hard it is”, life then starts to support you.

“You can’t build a reputation on what you’re GOING to do.” – Henry Ford

Here is a visualization technique that accomplishes all that. It guarantees that everyone you encounter will feel your warmth. I call it “Hello Old Friend”.

When meeting someone, play a mental trick on yourself. In your mind’s eye, see him or her as an old friend, someone you had a wonderful relationship with years ago. But somehow you lost track of your friend. You tried so hard to find your good buddy, but there was no listing in the phone book. No information online. None of your mutual friends had a clue.

Suddenly, WOW! What a suprise! After all those years, the two of you are reunited. You are so happy.

That’s where the pretending stops. Obviously, you are not going to try to convince New Person that the two of you are really old friends. You are not going to hug and kiss and say, “Great to see you again!” or “How have you been all these years?” You merely say, “Hello,” “How do you do,” “I am pleased to meet you.” But, inside it’s a very different story.

You will amaze yourself. The delight of rediscovery fills your face and buoys up your body language. I sometimes jokingly say if you were a light, you’d beam on the other person. If you were a dog, you’d be wagging your tail. You make New Person feel very special indeed.

The Technique: HELLO OLD FRIEND

When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old friend (an old customer, an old beloved, or someone else you had great affection for). How sad, the vicissitudes of life tore you two asunder. But, holy mackerel, now the party (the meeting, the convention) has reunited you with your long-lost old friend!

The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain reaction in your body from the subconscious of softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes — and everything between.

But wait a minute! A lot of them aren’t smarter than you. They’re not more educated than you. They’re not even better looking! So what is it? (Some people suspect they inherited it. Others say they married it, or were just plain lucky. Tell them to think again.) What it boils down to is their more skillful way of dealing with fellow human beings.

You see, nobody gets to the top alone. Over the years, people who seem to “have it all” have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to the top of whatever corporate or social ladder they chose.

Wanna-bes wandering around at the foot of the ladder often gaze up and grouse that the BIG BOYs and BIG GIRLS at the top are snobs. When BIG PLAYERS don’t give them their friendship, love, or business, they call them “cliquish” or accuse them of belonging to an “old-boy network.” Some grumble they hit their heads against a “glass ceiling.”

The complaining Little Leaguers never realize the rejection was their own fault. They’ll never know they blew the affair, the friendship, or the deal due to their own communications fumbles. Why don’t they see it? Because some of the moves BIG WINNERS make are so smooth, so subtle, it takes another BIG WINNER to recognize them.

The old boys – in the days when top management was, unfortunately, mainly old boys – complimented each other by saying, “Buddy, you ain’t no accident.” They bestowed this slang tribute with a tinge of jealously when one old buy saw some sensitive act the other had executed.

Indeed, today the old (and not so old) boys and girls who run our country, our corporations, and our arts “ain’t no accident.” Each has a big of tricks, a Midas touch that turns everything they do into success.

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